I love a party with little kids, but sometimes I just want a party without little people. As a mother of two (adorable and perfect) children and also as someone who likes to throw parties I grapple with how to make parties work with and without kids. It is really nice to have adult conversations where I’m not having to make sure my (adorable and perfect) children aren’t smearing Goldish crackers on the hostess’s sofa. Here are my some guidelines and tips for throwing a party without the littles.
1. Don’t say “no kids” on the invitation. You can either mention to the person verbally that this is an adults only event. If you want to put something on the invitation say something a little more PC like: “leave the little ones tucked in at home.”
2. Remember babysitters are difficult to find and expensive. We live in big cities where hiring a sitter can be very difficult and one night out can set you back $75(!) Make sure you are making the party worth their time. Make it special! (This is permission for you to go over the top!)
3. If its the right group and time of day consider hiring a sitter to play with the kids in a different part of the house. This is very generous and considerate. I’ve even borrowed portable cribs before so my guests could put their baby down in the other room so they could then stay and enjoy the party.
4. Babes in Arms are different than a two year old. Always allow mothers with babies the option of bringing them. Young babies are so portable they usually just sleep in their carseat in the corner anyway. It won’t cramp the style of the party (unless of course its a rave, in that case its probably better they don’t bring the baby.)
5. Parents: You host the party. We have lots of friends without children. Since I’ve had my own kids my favorite low-key party is when we have our kid-free guests show up at 8pm for a late dinner. Our kids are already in bed and we can have an adult dinner party without children.
6. Start a Babysitting Co-op. We did this when we lived in San Francisco. Basically it worked like this: there were four couples. Every Saturday night for three hours we dropped off our kids at 4:30 pm, fed, with diapers changed, and armed with fruit snacks. One couple would wrangle the kids (with movies and a ton of toys) while the others took off to play. You’d babysit one Saturday then have three Saturdays free! Three hours is just enough time to see a movie or get dinner and explore the city a little. We found having a set date night was so great for us and it felt so much more carefree because it was “free.”
I’d love to hear how you handle having parties without kids.
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